{"id":13780,"date":"2023-12-11T08:59:40","date_gmt":"2023-12-11T07:59:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/letrat.eu\/?p=13780"},"modified":"2024-04-08T22:46:06","modified_gmt":"2024-04-08T21:46:06","slug":"sigmat-sigalat-insigat-dhe-albsigat-e-dashurise","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/letrat.eu\/?p=13780","title":{"rendered":"Dashuri e Pasiguruar – Sigmat, Insigat dhe Albsigat… e Dashuris\u00eb!"},"content":{"rendered":"

(s. guraziu – ap, q 2021 – humoresk\u00eb)<\/em><\/p>\n

(…e leht\u00eb t\u00eb dashurohesh, akoma m\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebsh dashuri, por ta takosh nj\u00eb shpirt q\u00eb e b\u00ebn shpirtin t\u00ebnd t\u00eb shkreptij\u00eb, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7 e rrall\u00eb<\/strong>…)<\/p>\n

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“Dashurohu n\u00eb shpirtrat, jo n\u00eb fytyrat” – thoshte nj\u00eb citat q\u00eb e pash\u00eb (ishte di\u00e7 si citat-grafik\u00eb, me germa t\u00eb hijshme). Padyshim, ashtu n\u00eb stilin e vet sugjerues, th\u00ebnia aludonte q\u00eb t’nisemi si\u00e7 i duam dhe zogjt\u00eb, nuk bazohemi n\u00eb “fytyrat” e tyre. I duam si “shpirtra”, pa kushte as kondita, i duam jokushtimisht (jo vet\u00ebm sepse k\u00ebndojn\u00eb \u00ebmb\u00ebl, jo vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr cic\u00ebrimat, por dhe sepse ashtu ndiejm\u00eb, pa na shtyr\u00eb kush).
\nN\u00ebse t\u00eb niseshim nga “fytyrat”, ashtu mbase s’do i dallonim kurr\u00eb. Psh. b\u00ebji bashk\u00eb gjith\u00eb harabelat e G\u00ebrmis\u00eb, gjith\u00eb bilbilat Tiran\u00ebs, gjith\u00eb trumcak\u00ebt e Amazon\u00ebs, do na dukeshin t\u00eb “nj\u00ebjt\u00eb”, s’do kishte asnj\u00eb p\u00ebrjashtim, s’do dinim cili na qenkesh cili, sepse pakashum\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb nj\u00ebsoj jan\u00eb. N\u00ebse s’t\u00eb “dhimbset” dashuria p\u00ebr ta, n\u00ebse i do, dashuria jote ndaj tyre patjet\u00ebr do jet\u00eb shpirt\u00ebrisht, ec e dalloji trumcak\u00ebt n\u00eb fytyr\u00eb : )<\/p>\n

Sidoqoft\u00eb, kur \u00ebsht\u00eb fjala p\u00ebr t’i dashur njer\u00ebzit, p\u00ebr t’u dashuruar n\u00eb fytyrat njer\u00ebzore, p\u00ebr t’u dashuruar n\u00eb shpirtrat e tyre, gjith\u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb komplekse. Ka njer\u00ebz q\u00eb e kan\u00eb humbur “besimin” n\u00eb dashuri, dashuria tashm\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr ta. Sikur \u00ebsht\u00eb “reduktuar” n\u00eb nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb t\u00eb fjalorit, si term i zbraz\u00ebt, i ftoht\u00eb, pothuaj di\u00e7 si term “teknik”.
\nE megjithat\u00eb njer\u00ebz t\u00eb tjer\u00eb jo vet\u00ebm besojn\u00eb, ata jet\u00ebn pa dashuri s’mund ta marrin as me mend, sikur do \u00e7mendeshin pa dashurin\u00eb. Nj\u00eb kategori tjet\u00ebr n\u00eb favor t\u00eb dashuris\u00eb, q\u00eb ende i besojn\u00eb, thon\u00eb dashuria \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7 si art (ose e nj\u00ebjta gj\u00eb). Sipas tyre dashuria \u00ebsht\u00eb art sepse \u00ebsht\u00eb proces i gjetjes s\u00eb vetes, i njohjes s\u00eb vetes nd\u00ebr gj\u00ebrash q\u00eb nuk je vet\u00eb (un-i yt unik, vetja, vetvetja).<\/p>\n

Gjithsesi, dashuria kurr\u00eb s’\u00ebsht\u00eb e garantuar, s’mund as t\u00eb sigurohet as t\u00eb garantohet. P\u00ebrndryshe dhe p\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb do kishte aso kompani sigurimesh, her\u00eb do ishin Sigma e her\u00eb Omega, her\u00eb Insiga e her\u00eb Albsiga, her\u00eb Sigala e her\u00eb Delta Lloyd. Do b\u00ebheshin trilioner\u00eb ata shefat e kompanis\u00eb, s’do dinin \u00e7’t\u00eb b\u00ebnin me trilionat, aq fitimprur\u00ebse do ishin sigurimet e dashuris\u00eb.
\nMir\u00ebpo jo, p\u00ebr fat t\u00eb keq dashuria s’ka as siguri as garanci. Pa le q\u00eb ka dhe shum\u00eb “kontra-indikacione”, tep\u00ebr shum\u00eb efekte an\u00ebsore. E po ashtu, shpesh dashuria \u00ebsht\u00eb aq jet\u00ebshkurt\u00ebr, aq sa pothuaj m\u00eb shum\u00eb u ngjan\u00eb efemerizmave. Ik\u00ebn e zhduket thuase na ishte iluzion a \u00ebnd\u00ebrr, assesi realitet.<\/p>\n

Si\u00e7 e tham\u00eb m\u00eb lart, e leht\u00eb me zogjt\u00eb, e leht\u00eb n\u00ebse e kemi ndjesin\u00eb, e leht\u00eb t’i duam harabelat. Por kur \u00ebsht\u00eb fjala p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit, p\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb e tyre, sakaq ia fillojn\u00eb kompleksieti dhe ngat\u00ebrresat. Ndoshta do na ndihmonte k\u00ebtu nj\u00eb th\u00ebnie tjet\u00ebr e cila thot\u00eb “e leht\u00eb t\u00eb dashurohesh, akoma m\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebsh dashuri, por ta takosh nj\u00eb shpirt q\u00eb e b\u00ebn shpirtin t\u00ebnd t\u00eb shkreptij\u00eb, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7 e rrall\u00eb” : )
\nLe t’themi se e takuam nj\u00eb shpirt t\u00eb till\u00eb, pat\u00ebm fatin dhe e takuam… dhe tani si ta dim\u00eb, si ta njohim nj\u00eb “shkreptim\u00eb”. N\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb bazohemi, si t\u00eb orientohemi shpirt\u00ebrisht kur as shpirti dhe as “shk\u00ebndijat” nuk shihen. Ja pse as zemrat djaloshare, as zemrat e \u00e7upave fillestare, por as zemrat e vajzave universitare (gjoja k\u00ebto me “p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb”) kurr\u00eb s’e kan\u00eb garancin\u00eb, dhe dmth. as sigurin\u00eb.
\nSepse fytyrat e bukura shpesh jan\u00eb mashtrimtare, sepse aq e leht\u00eb t\u00eb biesh n\u00eb “kurthin” e dashuris\u00eb, sepse akoma m\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebsh dashuri. Andaj dhe sugjerimi “dashurohu n\u00eb shpirtrat, jo n\u00eb fytyrat – tjet\u00ebr se problemi gjithmon\u00eb ngelet aty ku dhe ishte, vall\u00eb si t’i njohim shpirtrat, si t’i njohim shkreptimat e mir\u00ebfillta, si t’u shmangemi xixave.
\nDikur von\u00eb kur t’jemi mbushur mend, kur “shkoll\u00ebn” dashuris\u00eb ta kemi paguar shtrenjt\u00eb, me kushedi sa d\u00ebshtime, me bohorritje, me derdhje lot\u00ebsh e me zem\u00ebrdhimbjen, at\u00ebher\u00eb dhe do dim\u00eb t’i njohim me shkreptima e me xixash fals. Por \u00e7’e do, sikur s’ia vlen as men\u00e7uria tep\u00ebr von\u00eb, sikur asfare s’na ngush\u00ebllojn\u00eb dashurit\u00eb e pleq\u00ebris\u00eb. I shtyjm\u00eb dhe ca vite tutje kuturu dhe “brraaam” k\u00ebputet di\u00e7, zemra na tradhton, ikim matan\u00eb t\u00eb djegur shkrumb, me zemr\u00ebn t\u00eb oksiduar nga dhimbja e nostalgjia.<\/p>\n

Sa p\u00ebr mosp\u00ebrmbushjen e konditave bazike estetike, si parakusht p\u00ebr “feksimin” e simpatis\u00eb, ndoshta s’ia vlen as t\u00eb lodhemi me komentin k\u00ebtu. Anise dhe kjo an\u00eb e ka t\u00eb mir\u00ebn e vet, sepse \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb lloj “sigurese” p\u00ebr sigurimin e josuksesit, \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7 si sigures\u00eb e garancis\u00eb p\u00ebr jo-dashurin\u00eb. As \u00e7upat fillestare por as vajzat me p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb s’kan\u00eb frik\u00eb nga sh\u00ebmtara\u00e7\u00ebt, s’u dridhet as buz\u00eb as qerpik sepse e din\u00eb fort mir\u00eb: zemra rehat, i ka siguresat e veta, kurr\u00eb nuk gjunj\u00ebzohet, s’ka simpati p\u00ebr “antipatin\u00eb” : )
\nNdonj\u00ebher\u00eb rrall\u00eb, tep\u00ebr rrall\u00eb, m\u00eb rrall\u00eb se n\u00eb p\u00ebrrallat, dhe mund t\u00eb ndodhin fenomenet e tilla si “beauty & the beast”. N\u00ebse ndodh\u00eb ndonj\u00eb surpriz\u00eb e till\u00eb, n\u00ebse nj\u00eb bukuroshe dashurohet n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb “bish\u00eb”, sakaq ia thuhet “epo… ka ndodhur sepse dashuria e verb\u00ebr”.
\nNdoshta “verb\u00ebria” e dashuris\u00eb as nuk ekziston, ndoshta thjesht di\u00e7 si metafor\u00eb poetike. Apo ndoshta ishte k\u00ebmb\u00ebngult\u00ebsia e zemr\u00ebs p\u00ebr t’par\u00eb me syt\u00eb e saj (dmth. duke i shp\u00ebrfillur syt\u00eb e arsyes). Kjo dhe mund t’jet\u00eb, madje pothuaj ting\u00ebllon pak\u00ebz dhe “shkenc\u00ebrisht”, p\u00ebrve\u00e7 se poetikisht.<\/p>\n

Shkurt, meq\u00eb nuk i shohim shpirtrat, sa p\u00ebr tiparet “faciale t\u00eb sh\u00ebmtara\u00e7ve” strofullat ndjesore rehat, asgj\u00eb nuk tundohet. Natyrisht e ruajm\u00eb njerzill\u00ebkun, s’e ulim veten sa i p\u00ebrket kultur\u00ebs, respekti p\u00ebr personat si “persona” dhe si donkishot\u00ebr t\u00eb vardisjes s’na l\u00ebkundet. As nuk p\u00ebrzihemi n\u00eb “integritetin estetik” t\u00eb askujt.
\nThjesht interesi jon\u00eb ngelet indiferent, mosp\u00ebrfill\u00ebs, i fjetur. Edhe \u00e7upat e gjimnazit, sikur dhe vajzat e universitetit mir\u00eb e din\u00eb – i rregullojn\u00eb kufjet n\u00eb vesh\u00eb gjoja merren me muzik\u00ebn. Ose lozin me figurinat hieroglifike t\u00eb iPhone, pa u m\u00ebrzitur. P\u00ebr sh\u00ebmtara\u00e7\u00ebt s’ia vlen t\u00eb “shpenzohen” madje as shikimet. Le t’jen\u00eb shpirtflorinj… n\u00ebse jan\u00eb, mir\u00ebsejan\u00eb, por ja q\u00eb ato s’kan\u00eb si ta din\u00eb : )<\/p>\n

[ ilustrimi ngjitur: Rafal Olbinski – “Labirint Dashurie”<\/span><\/em> ]<\/p>\n

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